Imagine the cruel step mothers from all those terrible children's stories, but the father isn't even dead.
Do some step mothers see the adolescent daughter as competition? Then persuade the father the child is corrupt in order to alienate the child from the father?
When a man has an affair, the adulterous women he is with, will try to alienate the man from his wife. She will encourage him to believe every negative thought about his wife, and try to point more out to him. She will help him to see the evil in his wife. The man, looking to justify himself, loves it, and feeds on it.
A "wicked" step mother/parent can do the same with the father and the child. Just like the woman luring a man from a sacred relationship, a cruel step mother can use all the same tactics to drive a wedge between the "competing" daughter and her father. These step mothers are of the same character as a woman luring a man from his wife.
This of course, is most likely to happen when the father once showered love on his daughter, and the step mother resents it.
If a young girl, who once felt showered with love by her father, is painfully alienated from her father, the consequence can be devastating and even fatal. As the child is alienated, of course she will act out and give the step mother more rotten material to work with.
It's pathetic that some men are so completely well, without any sense of reality that they fall for this. There is a special place prepared for such men.
A good man who really loves and cherished his sweet beautiful daughter, who understands his God given commandment to protect his precious daughter, who remembers those tender childhood little girl moments, could never do such a sick thing. It's hard to believe that such a father's love was ever real.
A woman who has inner strength and confidence would never do this to a step daughter. A strong faithful women has nothing to fear from a cherished step daughter. A strong confident women who has confidence in her relationship with her husband, would never do this. She would welcome her step daughter with open arms.
These women who alienate children from their fathers, are easy for most moms to spot.
I have so much more to say on this, but I can't. When you see one you love suffer, and are powerless to change the heartache... It's profoundly amazing how dark and twisted a mind can become that a father cannot even begin to recognize real love.
We are each responsible for our relationships with our children.
I asked God a question 10 years ago when I was in the hospital with a ill newborn. If a man has no natural affection for his children, and no desire to fulfill his fatherly duties to the child, is the father's heart then, so corrupt that it's better that the father leave anyway?
Is it better to let such a "parent" walk away?
The guilty step parent may even accuse the child of committing the very crime they have gotten away with. Who is doing the real alienating? The child left in the cold is not the guilty one. The evidence is in who is abandoned in the end.
