I forgot to mention in the Redirecting Guild article the effect guilt has on an abuser during counseling. As abusers redirect their guilt and retaliate against their partner every time they are confronted by their conscience, going through abuse counseling can be traumatic for both parties. I've heard plenty of stories and see it with my own eyes. The abuser attends a counseling session that confronts his abusive nature. The abuser then comes home and takes his guilt out on his children and or partner in a dramatic episode.