Yep. I got another phone call from a friend and visited with the family.
The Father is remarrying, the incoming wife is working hard to kick out the daughters. Same gender stepchildren get the worst!
Stepmothers drive out the stepdaughters first, and Step-Fathers drive out the stepsons first.
Insecurity and immaturity of the parents.
The annoying old exchange of pics of the text conversations where the stepparent behaves like an insolent child and the parent texts backing up the new stepparent's abusive behavior.
Years ago I witnessed text exchanged where I had to double, triple check because the child's texts were so mature, loving and patient while the step parents read like a ridiculous temperamental, emotional, irrational child's words.
In this situation that plays out over and over again, the child is heartbroken, angry, increased insecurity, and the opposite gender children are torn. As the opposite gender children are not yet rejected, they don't want to support their parent's abuse of their sibling, but they want to maintain their own relationship with their parent. "Maybe, if I stay, I can help my dad to be kinder to my sister."
The stepparent provokes the child, the child reacts and then the stepparent has more fuel to feed the actual parent to say the child is bad and must be banished.
It's not the first time I've seen it. It's not going to be the last.
Unrighteous Dominion: Dominion does not mean that whatever you do or decide is ordained, it means you have stewardship and accountability.
For parents, it means that God will hold you accountable for how you treat His children and flick you like a booger out of Heaven as you try to gain entry no matter how many times you've attended the temple, or alms, or service or whatever.
This is the embodiment of an unholy union that cannot be sanctified.
If you are in a remarriage where the spouse casts out the children, and feel religiously obligated to stay in the marriage, and you don't want another failed marriage, deal with it. Continue to love your children, and serve them. If your spouse chooses to leave, it's on them. Casting out children is contrary to the purpose of marriage and condemns the marriage. Don't think that serving a marriage on the crushed souls of your children is meritable. The whole point of marriage is a safe place to raise God's children, not appease your appetites and egos.
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