So often women tell themselves,
"If I have the perfect body, keep a perfect house, control the situation so absolutely no conflict or upsetting thing happens, if I have the children in complete control so they never say or do anything to upset my husband, if I pray and love and do everything possible to control the situation to my husband's desires. Then nothing will upset him. He will be happy and kind."
"If I can just keep everything perfect, my husband will be a good man."
Um, here is the problem with this logic.
People who are good and kind, well, they are good and kind.
Good people don't need perfect conditions to be good.
You keep telling yourself your husband is just doing thru a difficult time and will be good and kind, if you meet every demand.
That's not what "good" is.
Good is good. Good is not conditional. Good is not constantly finding reasons to behave cruelly and hurtful.
Quit telling yourself he'll be good under the right conditions.
Good and kind doesn't need perfect conditions to be good and kind.
It's just another lie you keep telling yourself that is hurting you and hiding the truth.
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