How to Save Your Man and Your Marriage

You know you can save him right?   And after you do he will be so grateful to you for saving him and his relationship to his children, and bringing him back to God and Family.  He will love you so much more!  One day he will look at you with that sweet smile.

You've managed him as an abuser to minimize his abuse and the consequence of it.  Surely with God's help you can save him?  Right?

Many years ago there was a man name Martin.  He was a devout Christian.  He was a good man.  He went about preaching and bringing souls to God.  He loved all mankind.  Then there was one group he was devoted to saving.  The family of Christ.   He befriended them, he preached to them, with hope to bring them to Christ.  For many years he tried to pursuade them.

At the end of his years, after bringing so many to Christ, this single group still resisted, completely.  They kept about their traditions and refused to convert.

After all those years of Martin's good works bringing souls to Christ, Martin became frustrated and bitter toward this particular group.

In his bitter anger, Martin Luthor wrote a book, "The ___ and their Lies".  This book was later picked up and expanded upon in a bigger longer winded confusing book, by the most hated man of the last century, and lead to the Holocaust and the deaths of millions in many countries.

The man who sought to save souls, became the seed of the greatest suffering of the last century.

Christ saves, you don't.  And it's in Christ's time, not yours.   No one can be forced to Come to the truth, no grand miracles can dissuade them from their course.   When one's heart seeks after Christ, then they do.

You can pray for miracles, for signs, you can pray to God to beat the *** out of him and have it answered with six chinese men with metal bats, you can be the best love maker, you can make the best meals, you can starve yourself to anorexia, you can pray to have your heart filled with such love that he can't help but feel it too, you can give him back rubs every night while your 9 months pregnant, you can suffer without compliant, you can leave all the money in the accounts and let him take it all so you can't afford a lawyer just to show your fidelity, you can be kind and understanding about his relationships with other women, you can pray that something big will happen in the world that brings everyone back to home and family like 9/11 then watch the towers go tumbling down.  You can pray to God to show him what can happen to your children if your family fails, then witness terrible things.  You can do all these things and God can hear and answer every last prayer prayer.  But you are not the problem.  God is not the problem.

Your man chooses what he chooses because he is who he is.

And until you accept that, you are going to suffer.

When he doesn't love, or put his family first the problem is not that you don't love enough or serve enough or put your family first.   Your serving loving isn't the problem.  Increasing the serving and loving won't fix him.  Until he gets it, he will not be saved.  And you, cannot make him "get it."

When Christ taught, he preached, then went on his way.   Those who believed in him, followed him.   When someone Christ taught refused him, he went on his way. Christ did not stick around with someone who didn't want it.

You have no power on when and how he will be saved.  You can pray for him and hope for him and be the best woman you can be for you and your children.  But he makes his choices.

If he is abusing you, and you think you will save him by staying, and letting him continue to rape and abuse you, that your love for him will eventually save him. You are wrong.   You are not following Christ.  Staying in a position where he can abuse you, then "turning the other cheek" is not going to save him, nor will it prove your righteousness.  It is fatally dangerous for your soul, and to his.

I guess we learn the hard way.