This was originally published in 2012
Imagine the cruel step mothers from all those terrible children's stories, but the father isn't even dead.
Do
some step mothers see the adolescent daughter as competition? Then
persuade the father the child is corrupt in order to alienate the child
from the father?
When a man has an affair, the adulterous women he is
with, will try to alienate the man from his wife. She will encourage
him to believe every negative thought about his wife, and try to point
more out to him. She will help him to see the evil in his wife. The man, looking to justify himself, loves it, and feeds on it.
A "wicked" step mother/parent can do the same with the
father and the child. Just like the woman luring a man from a sacred
relationship, a cruel step mother can use all the same tactics to drive a
wedge between the "competing" daughter and her father. These step
mothers are of the same character as a woman luring a man from his wife.
This of course, is most likely to happen when the father once showered love on his daughter, and the step mother resents it.
If
a young girl, who once felt showered with love by her father, is
painfully alienated from her father, the consequence can be devastating
and even fatal. As the child is alienated, of course she will act out
and give the step mother more rotten material to work with.
It's pathetic that some men are so completely well, without any sense of reality that they fall for this. There is a special place prepared for such men.
A good man who really loves and cherished his sweet beautiful
daughter, who understands his God given commandment to protect his
precious daughter, who remembers those tender childhood little girl
moments, could never do such a sick thing. It's hard to believe that
such a father's love was ever real.
A woman who has inner strength and confidence would never do this
to a step daughter. A strong faithful women has nothing to fear from a
cherished step daughter. A strong confident women who has confidence
in her relationship with her husband, would never do this. She would
welcome her step daughter with open arms.
These women who alienate children from their fathers, are easy for most moms to spot.
I have so much more to say on this, but I can't. When
you see one you love suffer, and are powerless to change the
heartache... To see a child face a life threatening diagnosis, and
still be refused by a parent they desperately love, words cannot
describe my loathing, and heartache. It's profoundly amazing how dark and twisted a mind can become that a father cannot even begin to recognize real love.
We are each responsible for our relationships with our children.
I
asked God a question 10 years ago when I was in the hospital with a ill
newborn. If a man has no natural affection for his children, and no
desire to fulfill his fatherly duties to the child, is the father's
heart then, so corrupt that it's better that the father leave anyway?
Is it better to let such a "parent" walk away?
Ten
years ago, I acknowledged that it is probably better to just let a man
like that leave. But the thought of any of my children not feeling
love from their father was so heart wrenching to me that I did a bad
thing. I decided to use reverse psychology aggressively to get him to
take an interest in his children. It was a lot of work, but it worked
for a while. I figured my kids would at least have a chance to decide
for themselves when they were older what to do with their relationships.
I could never do it again. There is no greater way to torture a woman than to force her to watch her children suffer.
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