Short tempered dominating men think they dominate and that they are in Authoritative control.
Nope, everyone lies to them and controls their reality making them think that for their own survival.
Short tempered=Emotionally unfit
No one trusts them. Yeah, they are in charge, but everyone plays Bagdad Bob to appease them and keep them calm.
If you are the kind of person in a crisis where everyone else's first step in the crisis is to calm you down, you will not be included or informed of a crisis until the army is banging down your door.
Stop getting mad at everyone else trying to survive your ridiculous temper.
Learn to control your temper and realize everything is not about you. Stop making everything about you. The crisis is about the crisis. If you want to be an actually valued person, demonstrate your ability to see the problem for what it is and stand by helping people get through it. (not about you)
Instead of stomping in condemning, walk-in calmly and ask, "What is the problem and how do you want me to help?"
Stick to sane problem-solving. Have a little faith. I sometimes wonder if those who lose their temper just lack faith.
Some are just full grown toddlers who want their way. (next sentence deleted, retyped and deleted again)
We teach our newborns and toddlers how to handle a crisis. If we freak out to our babes, they learn to freak out every time something goes wrong. If we act all chill and work the problem, we teach our babes to chill and work the problem. THAT is where they learn to trust us. When our children see us handle problems methodically and respectfully, they are more willing to turn to us later to help them work out their problems methodically and respectfully. Guess what, they learn to be reasonable awesome adults!
Chill, Respect and Work the Problem
Nope, everyone lies to them and controls their reality making them think that for their own survival.
Short tempered=Emotionally unfit
No one trusts them. Yeah, they are in charge, but everyone plays Bagdad Bob to appease them and keep them calm.
If you are the kind of person in a crisis where everyone else's first step in the crisis is to calm you down, you will not be included or informed of a crisis until the army is banging down your door.
Stop getting mad at everyone else trying to survive your ridiculous temper.
Learn to control your temper and realize everything is not about you. Stop making everything about you. The crisis is about the crisis. If you want to be an actually valued person, demonstrate your ability to see the problem for what it is and stand by helping people get through it. (not about you)
Instead of stomping in condemning, walk-in calmly and ask, "What is the problem and how do you want me to help?"
Stick to sane problem-solving. Have a little faith. I sometimes wonder if those who lose their temper just lack faith.
Some are just full grown toddlers who want their way. (next sentence deleted, retyped and deleted again)
We teach our newborns and toddlers how to handle a crisis. If we freak out to our babes, they learn to freak out every time something goes wrong. If we act all chill and work the problem, we teach our babes to chill and work the problem. THAT is where they learn to trust us. When our children see us handle problems methodically and respectfully, they are more willing to turn to us later to help them work out their problems methodically and respectfully. Guess what, they learn to be reasonable awesome adults!
Chill, Respect and Work the Problem
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