She has serious heart problems that required open-heart surgery because she's married to a b****** who looks down on women, even his most beautiful wife as inferior to himself, and doesn't give a crap about what she actually thinks, doesn't actually believe that she thinks anything valuable. Yes, they seem like the perfect couple, no they are most certainly not. She dresses beautiful every day because, after all these years, she still believes she will be abandoned if not. She was broken as a child, and he took advantage of that to demand exact obedience of her. He preyed on her deep childhood fears of abandonment. She's lost her ability to think for herself, have her own opinions, pursue her own talents, (those that are not utilitarian to him). When she gives a talk in church, he graciously writes it for her,
because who on earth wants to hear from her. The only time he pays attention to her is when she's sick, then he is noble and cares for her physical ailments. It's her body's only means of speaking out. You can tell how he treats her just by her health. He's used religion to make her believe that she must subject herself to him and all his whims, and give up her own thinking. She cannot love and defend her children when hurt if it threatens him. I think I know exactly when he finally broke her completely. You can see it in her picture history. The wife of a
dominating man, cannot love. His widow mother tried to say she was distressed by how her husband (his father) treated her. So He, her son,
declares her "mentally unstable." Thus his wife sees that and knows,
that if she expresses distress, she too will be declared "mentally unstable". Thus he makes an example of his own mother to subject women.
So she carries on as the "perfect" wife for years and years, but her
heart can't fake it.
Comments