Monday, November 8, 2021

Persuasion vs Manipulation

Just because you are persuasive doesn't mean your are manipulate.

Those who present a weak argument can just claim the other side is manipulative.

Persuasive people respects your intelligence.

Persuasive people presents all the facts.

Persuasive people are sincere.

Persuasive people have a legitimate cause. 

Persuasive people appeal to ethos, logos and and pathos. (Ethics, Logic, Emotion)

Claiming that someone who does all these is "manipulative" is a cheap cop out. Its a way of writing someone off. Never having to summit your self to Ethics, Logic or Emotional Intelligence..

Its incredibly easy to write truth off as manipulation.

What is manipulation?  

Fractional Truths. Like the article telling of 300,000 ballots sent for a recount (without ever stating it wasn't even Trumps votes, but a city council election). This feeds emotional ignorance, it's unethical and fractional truth.

An article quoting a Judge ruling in Trump's favor, but not explaining the judge was a dissenting judge against a majority opinion. More emotional ignorance.

Manipulations creates puppets. Puppets are creepy and scary to be around.

There is a big difference between persuasion and manipulation.

I can be persuasive if allowed to speak. I respect the ethics, intelligence and emotions of others when I persuade. I like people who keep their head, ask intelligent questions, provide challenge and keep me honest.

People who don't allow you to speak and explain yourself, they are the true manipulators afraid of truth.

Micro and Macro patterns are the same. 

Beware of "fractional truths". Truths so bad they aren't even half truths.

D&C 121

39 We have learned by sad experience that it is the nature and disposition of almost all men, as soon as they get a little authority, as they suppose, they will immediately begin to exercise unrighteous dominion.

40 Hence many are called, but few are chosen.

41 No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned;

42 By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile

43 Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;

44 That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death.

 

Monday, November 1, 2021

Recipricating Kindness for Cruelty

There were many times he screamed at me at our door. I stood there and spoke as kindly, calling on all the love I had within me.

Why?

I loved him. I felt sorry for him. I was afraid for our children. I was afraid for him.

How could I teach our children to love if their parents can't love each other?

He thought he could be controlled. 

Reciprocating kindness for cruelty is the ultimate way to show, "You can't control me. I can't control you."Its how you break the illusion of control. We can't control others, we can only control ourselves.

I wanted to teach my children to love him, to love me, to love unconditionally. We do not love the perfect unconditionally, we love the flawed unconditionally. We are all flawed.

Usually, when someone is under the delusion that you are out to get them in some way, or that you are their enemy, if you treat them with kindness, they realize they got it all wrong and soften up.

Usually. There are exceptions. This was one.

For 1,000,001 reasons that flooded my mind, I reciprocated with all the love I had.

I felt I had loved him for eternities, and this was just one screwed up moment in time.

If I could teach my children to love him, then even if I couldn't save him then, then our children could save him later.

The Star Wars prequels were out, and he was young Anakin to me. Mulder was also replaced by a alien human hybrid super soldier out to kill Scully while she was pregnant with the mystery baby.

Being forced to fight someone you love and care for is pretty freaky.

Anyway, I kept seeking Luke Skywalker take the mask off of Darth Vader. 

Someday, he could be saved. If not then, then someday.